"[Counterfeit affections are] substitutes for genuine affection we left behind or never had. We were created for love and family; consequently, without them, we will find something to bond to as a replacement, even if it is unhealthy or destructive. [But the truth is that] counterfeit affections bring no true fulfillment." - Jack Frost

1. PASSION 

• The passions of the flesh often take the form of various addictions: food, alcohol, drugs, pornography, sex, and escapism—whatever seems to comfort our lonely and insecure heart.  

2. PEOPLE

• This is the belief that a person or spouse is the answer to all your needs instead of making God's love your primary source. 

3. PERFORMANCE 

• Performance feels like there's something more that you must do or put in order before you can find rest and feel good about yourself. 

4. PLACE

• This is the ungodly belief that, "If only I had a better job, I would be happy... If only I lived somewhere else... If only I could run away and escape..."

5.  POSITION

• Still others seek position—the praise of man, seeking acceptance by striving to be seen or by slaving away in an effort to win the approval of others, especially of those who can advance our lot in life. 

6. POSSESSION 

• Some people turn to possessions, thinking that they somehow will find their heart's rest through worldly gain. 

7. POWER

• Power-seekers desire to control their own life and destiny, with little desire to be open or real and with little sense of need for anything or anybody. Control of emotions, people, or circumstance is their way of making sure they are never disappointed or hurt again. This of course is totally unrealistic.