Soul Tie: The spiritual component of any relationship intensely connected to you spiritually, emotionally, or mentally...
God designed us to have a deep, meaningful connection through relationships that offer a mutual, healthy interdependence, where we can rely on, trust, and give and receive support to one another, but these relationships were meant to be solely dependent to Him. When this is violated and we put more trust in a specific individual rather than on God, we are entering into sin and paving the way for an unhealthy soul tie to form with that a person.
If there is any part of you that still wants or craves a connection to a person, or a thing, even when you know it's unhealthy.
If you find yourself in a repetitive history of unhealthy relationships.
If you are in a relationship where you are not able to genuine be yourself.
Ungodly soul ties can be developed with and through anything that is unhealthy or harmful to you, and they are not just the result of sexual relationships.
"The acts of the flesh are obvious: sexual immorality, impurity and debauchery; idolatry and witchcraft; hatred, discord, jealousy, fits of rage, selfish ambition, dissensions, factions and envy; drunkenness, orgies, and the like. I warn you, as I did before, that those who live like this will not inherit the kingdom of God." - Galatians 5:19-21 NIV
We can all name our poison if we have the courage to go there; if you will bravely look for patterns in your decisions, choices, and your relationships. The traps of ungodly soul ties will be evident.
It is by confession and repentance
"Words kill, words give life; they’re either poison or fruit—you choose." - Proverbs 18:21 MSG
“26 See, I am setting before you today a blessing and a curse: 27 the blessing, if you obey the commandments of the Lord your God, which I command you today, 28 and the curse, if you do not obey the commandments of the Lord your God, but turn aside from the way that I am commanding you today, to go after other gods that you have not known." - Deuteronomy 11:26-28 ESV
It is our choosing. It doesn't matters how many transforming [inner healing] sessions we go through if we do not apply what we have learned and do the leg work. Ultimately, we will undo all the work from that session. Spiritually-wise people learn to discern the spirit of a person before we choose to connect with them on a deeper level.
"Beloved, do not believe every spirit, but test the spirits to see whether they are from God, for many false prophets have gone out into the world." - 1 John 4:1 ESV
"For those who live according to the flesh set their minds on the things of the flesh, but those who live according to the Spirit set their minds on the things of the Spirit... For if you live according to the flesh you will die, but if by the Spirit you put to death the deeds of the body, you will live." - Romans 8:5,13 ESV
"Set your minds on things that are above, not on things that are on earth... Put to death therefore what is earthly in you: sexual immorality, impurity, passion, evil desire, and covetousness, which is idolatry." - Colossians 3:2,5 ESV
"Be sober-minded; be watchful. Your adversary the devil prowls around like a roaring lion, seeking someone to devour." - 1 Peter 5:8 ESV
"Watch and pray that you may not enter into temptation. The spirit indeed is willing, but the flesh is weak." - Matthew 26:41
"For the one who sows to his own flesh will from the flesh reap corruption, but the one who sows to the Spirit will from the Spirit reap eternal life." - Galatians 6:8